CléaI didn’t sleep well last night, so this morning I was like, I have this huge headache. When I spoke to Nick on the phone, I was like, well, I lost it. So I told him I was sorry, but he brought it upon himself by telling me to get over it. I called Mum straight away and told her she might like to call him and tell him not to bug me at 7 am. When all I wanted to say was, “F*ck you! Get over yourself.” Later in the day while having lunch with a girlfriend, she argued that men and women can’t be just friends and she started quoting when Harry ate met Sally, and I was like, um, I don’t like chick flicks or this genre of movies. The day was going shite anyway but when he texted me saying, “Love you” I got so angry, all I wanted to do was f*ck him.
Like – “And I was like… OMG OMG” or “I was like… um, so pissed off at…” Well, were you or weren’t you? Make up your mind. Isn’t anything absolute any more?
But – particularly in the context of “I’m sorry. But …” You’re either sorry, or you’re not. Or in the context of giving feedback. “That was a well-written document. But… “ Or “I’m not racist/vindictive/insert adjective but…” Use your but and you lose all credibility.
You might like to… – as a way of softening the blow of what you want to say. If you’re not in a work situation, have the balls to cough up and say what you mean.
Get over it – as a means of giving advice or an opinion when it is asked. Those three words are a big copout. They say that a) you don’t give a damn and b) you can’t be bothered thinking of an alternative. Note: Get over yourself is totally acceptable.
Not into you – And I don’t mean it in the literal sense. Because if he/she were, into you, you’d better not be asking, “Is it in?” But I digress. Because I’m in a mood. Anyone who quotes lines out of movies like gospel loses my respect. Baa…. Sheep.
Genre – Let’s face it, 99% of the Anglo world can’t pronounce it properly. Say it incorrectly, and you sound like a pretentious wanker.
Love you – Nothing wrong in telling someone you love them when you do. “Love you” is a cheap substitute when you leave out the “I”. And this has nothing to do with grammar.
F*ck – when used to mean “have sex”, unless you’re talking dirty to someone. Nothing’s wrong with the use of the word as an expletive. Even mild-mannered Cléa occasionally drops the F-bomb. Sometimes there is nothing more gratifying that saying, “F*ck you!” to someone, when the last thing you’d want to do is, like, fornicate with them.
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What about you? Got any pet hate words you like to share?
Whatever – Especially when it’s a single word answer to something. It pisses me off that people either cannot make up their minds or they are dismissing the conversation entirely.
I need your help – It is my calling to answer and also one of my greatest peeve because half the time they don’t need help, they just need a “yes-man” to tell them that whatever mistakes they made were perfectly justified.
I understand – Unless you walked in my shoes for the past few years. No. I don’t think you do.
I’m sorry – All I’m seeing is your mouth move with sounds coming out of them. Nothing other than that. I’m getting tired of it.
Kami:
Whatever – definitely sounds dismissive to me.
I need your help - what you describe here is what most friendships seek, not your advice but confirmation that they’re right.
I understand – I don’t mind that one. It tells me at least the person has made an effort to acknowledge and understand. Sometimes there’s little to say but something like that.
I’m sorry – You don’t like getting apologies?? Sometimes those 2 words are the best thing you hear. Full stop.
I need your help – That has never been my definition of what friendship should be based on. Acquaintances yes, but never friends. After all, it often becomes a one sided request. Something that I hate as well.
I understand – Maybe in your world they do, not in my life they haven’t. Those words are often hollow in their meaning, in an effort to try and avoid any more dealing with pain rather than actual empathy. If there is anything I have learned in dealing with the pain of others is that no one can really understand the other unless they have walked their shoes. Otherwise it’s a blind faced lie. Something I despise when people try and comfort me.
I’m sorry – Usually the epitome of lies, especially when they do it over and over and over again. What’s the point of saying sorry when you keep repeating the same mistakes? They stop being a good thing to hear and become a source of annoyance and reminder that people often don’t own up to their mistakes, they just expect you to forgive and forget.
Kami:
I need your help - can take lots of guts, to admit that one can’t do something and values someone else’s input and advice. If you can’t ask your friends for help, who can you ask?
I understand – what do you expect then if their understanding isn’t enough? Sometimes that is all they can offer. At least they acknowledge the situation instead of acting like it doesn’t exist. In my world, it can provide comfort, even if they haven’t walked in my shoes. Because let’s face it, no one ever walks in our shoes but people can be understanding and empathic.
I’m sorry – again, what do you expect them to say when they apologise? Saying they’re sorry is a form of ownership of a mistake or a state of mind.
I’m going to be blunt here. It seems you have expectations that you can change people, even when they’re in the wrong, or if they’ve wronged you. That is not going to be the case unless they want to change and make the effort. If this is a blanket statement of how you view friendships or relationships with people, then you’ll always going to be disappointed when their actions or words don’t meet the bar that you have raised based on your expectations. And if that were me, and most people around me were disappointing me, I’d take a long hard look at myself because the problem may well lie within me, and not them. Expectations are often the hardest to manage.
Hello. I’ve been checking out the nice party you have brought together at this beach. I hope you don’t mind my joining.
I have come to hate these:
“I like you” (or “im fond of you”)- coming from a guy i’m absolutely crazy for.
“how are you?” – when people don’t care at all for how you are, but are followed by a request that you fill them in about the latest news of your misfortunes. Some people love drama (when it’s not their own of course)
And lately, almost every thing men say to try to hit on me. At least they should be creative. Do they really think they’ll fish something by hitting the water with a club? Being single again is a really weird experience.
Ellamir: Hello and welcome to my sandy corner
Always lovely to welcome new readers.
“I like you” – doesn’t that always mean I’m not that interested?
“How are you” – or the reverse. They ask about you, don’t want to listen then tell you their problems!
Your comment about being hit on made me laugh. I bet you’d have a collection by now, maybe worthy of a blog!
I hate anything which is grammatically incorrect or substandard. I even regularly correct my 4- and 6-year-old boys. The silver lining is that I have more hope for them than I do for most adults because at least these young ones are impressionable.
Where is the [plural noun] tops my list.
I stand corrected. Yous guys tops my list.
I stand corrected. The misuse of decimate tops my list.
I have a very top heavy list. Rather, I have no list. I only have anger.
Peefer: I’m a bit of a grammar snob as well. Incorrect use of contractions are my pet hate.
Yous guys is in your lexicon as well? I thought it belonged to this part of the world. Words spoken by bogans are high on my list as well. maybe I too am angry. Hmm…
Leo Rosten’s theory is that the “like” qualifier evolves from Yiddish, since in the Germanic languages, the phrase, “make like” is quite ubiquitous. In an old Frank Capra movie, for instance, the cliche’ is that a guy jumps in a taxicab and says, “Make like a racecar driver and step on it!”
Modernly it is a popular “hedging” tool. Americans love “hedgers”: for instance, how many Americans know that “by and large” is a nautical term? And how many use it without knowing what it means? Part of going to college is learning more fancy ways to cover your ass, like, “Assuming, arguendo…” or passive tenses, like, “One could argue…”
Zen: At least ‘make like’ is close to the proper use of similes when using the word like. The way younger generations use it now (just eavesdrop on some teenagers…ugh) sounds so sloppy as if they’re lacking in vocabulary, which they probably are.
I haven’t heard of arguendo before. I like it. Sounds like something the Fonz would say. Hehe… Another word I can’t stand in speech is Ergo. *cringe*
Short and simple, what I cringe at more than anything else is: Fine.
“Fine” is a four letter word, that never means what the actual definition. Case and point:
Husband -What do you think about going to this restaurant for dinner?
Wife – Fine
Any husband who believes it is sunk for the rest of the night.
Justin: You score 10/10 for understanding the true meaning of the word when spoken by a woman. Not that I was scoring anyone. Fine is also a conversation killer for men, or a prompt for probing and mind reading from women.
Fine. You choose.
Hahhahahaha this is great! A favourite of mine is “ok, what we need to do is…”, which actually translates as, “what I want you to do is…. , because I lack the talent or initiative to do it myself and further, I have no intention of helping you, but will happily take the credit later”.
One from TinyTown you’ll love is “y’right?”. This is common from shop assistants, especially in the outer suburbs. I have been known to reply “yes, I am right… but nobody has served me yet”.
Gboy: “ok, what we need to do is…” and I can imagine the type of person in a meeting uttering those words. they should be lined up and shot with pen clickers.
“y’right?” – never heard that one. But I love your response! We get the ‘hello, how are you today, can i help you with anything, or if you need any help let me know’ or worse they interrogate us about our day and what we’re up to. Sheesh. I too give them a short snappy reply. I must be a b!tch when it comes to chatty sales assistants.
Maybe everything is phony, insincere and deceitful in this world… I don’t have my favourite hate words but the older I become the less I believe in humankind… I guess I will end as a grumpy, irritable and complaining old man…
Sidney: I don’t think it’s to do with age but with the growing selfishness of people in general. It’s a conversation that I hear often from people of different age groups. Maybe we’re all heading towards being grumpy and having low tolerance of others.
Do you actually know people who use the word ergo? I think I would have to kick them in the knees. I don’t like when people use ”nice” to describe things. In 5th grade we were not allowed to use nice in any of our assignments, our teacher said, “Nice is like vanilla pudding.” At the time it was irritating, but now I completely agree. There must be a better word to describe something than just “nice”.
Mrs Mahd: Ugh… I do. And I feel like laughing in their face when they pronounce it, err-go. *cringe*
Sounds like we had similar teachers when it comes tot he word nice. This reminds me of an expression used in my country which irks me big time. People say “beautiful” to describe the taste of delicious food. It’s taste people not visual! *double cringe*
Hah! What does beautiful taste like? Perhaps I should lick the hottest guy I can find and then I will know. I have a feeling I wouldn’t want my food to taste like that.
Mrs Mahd: This would have to be the best comment out of you ever!!!
I’m so far behind with your blog, but this is a great topic. I abhor the term “fail” as it’s used today. Such as when it accompanies a picture of a cat passed out with peanut butter smeared all over its face. That’s just not funny to me, but I’m getting older and not younger. Maybe I need to watch more Star Trek movies or something.
Egan: Ugh, yes. A fad that’s gone out of hand. You just wait, next it will be ’sooo 2009′ that they’ll invent a replacement. Getting older? Pfft. Start Trek has been rebooted and it’s all the range now for the younger generations.
And good to have you back.