CléaMartini Moments… Dipped in a Little Mystique
1. It’s a good feeling when people begin to feel comfortable with one another that they start sharing intimate thoughts. But since there is no going back, I wonder if maintaining a little mystique is a better option.
2. And when people know each other so well, and for a prolonged period, I often ponder if a little mystique is not such a bad thing to maintain. Admittedly it is a lot harder to sustain.
3. There are arguments that men cannot win, not once the foot has been strategically placed in mouth, regardless of the amount of alcohol consumed.
4. Sometimes a little distance is needed to give a special person a little space to enjoy their special moments. But it takes a lot of trust to know they will not misinterpret it for lack of care.
5. A blog is like a virtual whip that you crack above your own head, making you write and maintain the momentum. You only feel the pain that the whip inflicts once you stop writing.
Tags: blogging whip, foot in mouth, Martini Moments, mystique
Yup, I completely agree with number 5. I feel guilty if I don’t put a post up everyday like I did in the summer (sometimes twice a day).
And I struggle with number 4.
1. Of course. Best relationships are the ones where there is always a little surprise even when you least expect it. Despite the connection, a perpetual enigma is often an unbreakable attraction.
2. Unless having mystique is just a natural thing to do. I know some people do.
3. There is that, and there is me. The foot in the mouth disease happens only when I am NOT under the influence of alcohol.
4. Abso-fracking-lutely. We also have to know that there are people that enjoy an alone time to recharge. While others like to be with people to recharge. Trusting where a person is makes it work.
5. And I feel it too. I just haven’t the muse nor the time to put my life into words at the moment.
distance keeps the posibility of oneness
EM:
5 – When you think about it, the guilt doesn’t make sense. Yet it happens.
4 – That’s a tough one. You’d have to know the person really well and hope they can interpret it right.
Kami:
1 – That’s all good at the start, but after a few years, the enigma disappears.
2 – Even after 10 years or more? I doubt it very much.
3 – I see! Either way, when men lose it, best to admit defeat!
4 – As I said to EM, you’d have to know them really well and trust they can interpret you.
5 – It’s understandable. No point pushing it if it isn’t there.
Die Muräne :
But does it bring people closer or further apart… it can go either way.
neighter nor. your question has nothing to do with distance. thougt you know that.
1. It is a good feeling, and there’s a lot to gain from a shared thought or experience… but at the same time, in sharing it you give some of yourself away. You cannot ever reclaim lost mystique.
2. I think it’s worth hanging onto just a little – as long as it’s a case of keeping something interesting to be discovered sometime later, not deception.
3. Oooooooh lordy, have I ever seen some fine examples of this over the last few days. Scary part? No alcohol was required…
4. Hmmm… I have many “special moments”… like when I try and dance to techno. People certainly do keep there distance, and most wisely. LOL
5. A blog is like an editor you’re shagging.
Die Muräne : Yes, not the physical distance, but the emotional one.
Gboy:
1. Hence the dilemma. But one can’t keep holding back, else there is no progress.
2. Definitely! Deception isn’t part of this equation. But it’s difficult to keep something when you’ve known someone for so long, as they have known you. Hmmm…
3. The reason I mentioned alcohol is because it gets the blame often enough. Some people don;t need it!
4. Thank you for the mental image
5. Meaning… you keep going back for more?
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ps. You already know this (and if you don’t, where’s my whip? lol), but –
I ♥ your blog!
1. Yes, quite the dilemma… I often wonder the same thing myself. Intimacy vs. intrigue, is it possible to have both? Yes, BUT (and it’s a huge but, lol) – both have to be playing the same game, for lack of a better way to put it. Mystique can *still* be cultivated in an intimate r’ship, but it takes imagination and yes, hard work. …. and then at a certain point, one can begin to wonder “what’s the point” if the other isn’t playing along. Make any sense?
2. It’s damn hard!… especially the other has lost all of THEIR mystique. LOL!
3. There are LOTS of arguments that men can’t win, period…. regardless of alcohol intake.
One foot-intake happens, they lose. lol
4. Once you’ve gotten past the point of the “newness” of a r’ship, the other should know that it’s not a matter of you not caring (especially if already told/reassured that fact by you) — and the same goes vice versa.
5. Very true…. but a blog is also a Time Thief, lol
Hope we both have lots more Time to do the RL things we need to do! =)
LB: See my reply comment in the next post.
LB:
1. I understand what you’re saying. However, I don’t view it as a game with both parties playing. Mystique exists and it’s almost one-sided in that the other person intrigues us, we want to know more. They can feel the same way, but it’s not a reciprocal thing necessarily.
2. When they’ve lost it, gone bye bye for ever!
3. I like the way you think
4. Same goes for friendships.
5. A blog takes more thought time as well. I only realised how much I dedicate to it in my mind once I took the sabbatical.
Martini Cheers to that, LB!