Comments on: Dragging Him Down The Aisle

By: Cléa

Cléa — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 06:12:43 +0000

Gboy: Are you telling me it’s right then to coerce a man? Because if marriage isn’t something he wants, what’s the point?

By: gboy

gboy — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 05:48:15 +0000

do men allow themselves to be coerced into marriage when they’re uncertain and not ready

See, here the thing with guys. They need to be coerced into pretty much everything that smacks of responsibility. It starts with splitting the bond on a cramped bedsitter, and doesn’t end until the will they composed so grudgingly is read out.

By: Cléa

Cléa — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:15:58 +0000

EM: That sounds like heaven! I really hope you get to do it soon :).

Kamigoroshi: I’ve never not seen it end badly, or make people miserable. I can understand doing things to please your partner, but if you’re not ready for a lifetime commitment, no point in making one.

By: Kamigoroshi

Kamigoroshi — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 09:17:53 +0000

It says that he is only human. Doing things out of impulse of the moment without considering the future ahead.

Men in particular, unable to comprehend emotions, are easily sucked into doing things for the sake of not wanting to make a scene. I have seen it happen so many times and so many times has it ended badly.

By: Essentially Me

Essentially Me — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 03:00:44 +0000

The only thing I want to do before/when I turn 30 is jump out of a plane and go to France and England. THAT I can handle.

By: Cléa

Cléa — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 23:48:05 +0000

Jarod: It may be a combination of the factors you mention, depending on the individual. Sharon has recently bought a house with Mike but still no mention of marriage so I’d say she’s still feeling insecure.

Kamigoroshi: You think so? Does emotional blackmail to that degree really work? I can’t imagine pressuring a man into it. What does it say about him if he’s unsure yet he accepts?

By: Kamigoroshi

Kamigoroshi — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 23:21:34 +0000

Regardless, most men in relationships today have a tough time saying no. They feel guilty when they make a girl sad, much less cry and they would do anything to endure that…including marriage. Coupled with men AND who really don’t understand the concept of a relationship, you get situations like that. It’s as much a woman’s perception of what a relationship is to them as is the oblivious nature of what a guys thinks of in a relationship.

I might not have gone through marriage, but I made the same mistakes for the same reasons, one I would never repeat again. Most of the times it’s best to know what both people want in their lives that doesn’t have to do with a relationship. Sometimes it’s always best to say stop.

Makes you wonder whether most men in relationships have the balls to say that.