Comments on: Swinging http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/ Living the Martini Life Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:14:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Cléa http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-526 Cléa Mon, 25 Feb 2008 05:48:01 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-526 <b>GBoy:</b> I was wondering where you were ! ;) I think 70s pr-0-n has influenced a lot of our thinking, judging by the comments on this post. And thanks for the hairy mention, nice graphic that adds to the shudders... Your suspicions may be founded. I have one in mind who I've suspected for a while, along with her husband and a couple of things she's said along the way. She's not a friend, nor can I approach her and ask... but would like to know if I'm right. GBoy: I was wondering where you were ! ;)
I think 70s pr-0-n has influenced a lot of our thinking, judging by the comments on this post. And thanks for the hairy mention, nice graphic that adds to the shudders…

Your suspicions may be founded. I have one in mind who I’ve suspected for a while, along with her husband and a couple of things she’s said along the way. She’s not a friend, nor can I approach her and ask… but would like to know if I’m right.

]]> By: gboy http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-523 gboy Mon, 25 Feb 2008 05:23:28 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-523 Oh noes! I had it in my mind I'm commented on this post... d'oh! I had a chuckle at what Mez had to say... my thoughts were the same about the whole 70's throwback thing. It conjures up visions of some bad 70's funk soundtrack with lots of wah wah effects, and hairy people all suddenly and inexplicably getting their gear off and jumping in the pool. *Shudder* No one has confessed it to me, but I must say, I have my suspicions... Oh noes! I had it in my mind I’m commented on this post… d’oh!

I had a chuckle at what Mez had to say… my thoughts were the same about the whole 70’s throwback thing. It conjures up visions of some bad 70’s funk soundtrack with lots of wah wah effects, and hairy people all suddenly and inexplicably getting their gear off and jumping in the pool. *Shudder*

No one has confessed it to me, but I must say, I have my suspicions…

]]> By: Cléa http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-484 Cléa Wed, 20 Feb 2008 23:49:09 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-484 <b>Mez:</b> I guess I was told the nitty gritty (?) details before I had a chance to ask, including most answers to your questions. But there was no mention of ashtrays! I think people can tell who is accepting and who isn't. And like you, I too have an opinion and strong beliefs that I'm not afraid of expressing, even when it is not my business. But something like this only affects them, and has little to do with people around them. As long as they're being careful, it's up to them. <b>Nage:</b> Your gut feel is right. I am a good listener (and analyser) and although I have opinions, I look at situations with a degree of objectivity, even when they're emotional at times. You and your wife sound like stirrers! I bet you tell them you swing from chandeliers too... :) Mez: I guess I was told the nitty gritty (?) details before I had a chance to ask, including most answers to your questions. But there was no mention of ashtrays!

I think people can tell who is accepting and who isn’t. And like you, I too have an opinion and strong beliefs that I’m not afraid of expressing, even when it is not my business. But something like this only affects them, and has little to do with people around them. As long as they’re being careful, it’s up to them.

Nage: Your gut feel is right. I am a good listener (and analyser) and although I have opinions, I look at situations with a degree of objectivity, even when they’re emotional at times.

You and your wife sound like stirrers! I bet you tell them you swing from chandeliers too… :)

]]> By: Nage http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-483 Nage Wed, 20 Feb 2008 18:27:49 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-483 I like that Mez is all over the questions surrounding this. She went with the 70s thing too. Cléa, you have this air about you that allows people to open up and say stuff they may not elsewhere. I'm going out on a limb here, but my thinking is you're a damn good listener and that's why it happens. I could be wrong, but that's my gut feeling. The secret nature of swinging doesn't surprise me so much. My wife and I have used swinging as a fun little prank on some other married couples. It's a great ice breaker. I like that Mez is all over the questions surrounding this. She went with the 70s thing too. Cléa, you have this air about you that allows people to open up and say stuff they may not elsewhere. I’m going out on a limb here, but my thinking is you’re a damn good listener and that’s why it happens. I could be wrong, but that’s my gut feeling.

The secret nature of swinging doesn’t surprise me so much. My wife and I have used swinging as a fun little prank on some other married couples. It’s a great ice breaker.

]]> By: mez http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-481 mez Wed, 20 Feb 2008 10:01:07 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-481 nah, it wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest however I would have relentlessly made fun of the 1970s throwback of it all. Oh yes! And yes I suppose I would have asked for more details not just physical ones but ones about 'do they think they will always partake in it?" "is it a deal breaker, what if they end up with a partner in the future who isn't into it, would they feel stifled by NOT being a swinger?" and "what if you meet someone who is better at sexing than your hubby is - have they talked about that before going into it?". Also the most important question - "does it start with keys in an ashtray?". Yeah, I'm one of those "askers". I get a hell of a lot of people telling me things they''ve not told anyone before or 'please don't tell anyone but...' type confessions. I guess maybe we're both quite accepting. I don't really hold back my opinion but bottom line I'm always respectful and accepting (even when poking fun). nah, it wouldn’t have bothered me in the slightest however I would have relentlessly made fun of the 1970s throwback of it all. Oh yes! And yes I suppose I would have asked for more details not just physical ones but ones about ‘do they think they will always partake in it?” “is it a deal breaker, what if they end up with a partner in the future who isn’t into it, would they feel stifled by NOT being a swinger?” and “what if you meet someone who is better at sexing than your hubby is - have they talked about that before going into it?”. Also the most important question - “does it start with keys in an ashtray?”. Yeah, I’m one of those “askers”.

I get a hell of a lot of people telling me things they”ve not told anyone before or ‘please don’t tell anyone but…’ type confessions. I guess maybe we’re both quite accepting. I don’t really hold back my opinion but bottom line I’m always respectful and accepting (even when poking fun).

]]> By: Cléa http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-480 Cléa Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:16:30 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-480 <b>Egan:</b> Apparently, it's quite popular across various age groups, and some circles can be quite exclusive. Yes, it is odd that both have confided about the same thing in me. And you are also correct, there must be something about me, because people often open up to me about things and follow it up with "I've never told this before...". Now you're making me think... Egan: Apparently, it’s quite popular across various age groups, and some circles can be quite exclusive. Yes, it is odd that both have confided about the same thing in me. And you are also correct, there must be something about me, because people often open up to me about things and follow it up with “I’ve never told this before…”. Now you’re making me think…

]]> By: egan http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-479 egan Wed, 20 Feb 2008 07:45:55 +0000 http://www.cbmused.com/2008/02/19/swinging/#comment-479 Swinging still happens? I thought that was a thing of the 70s. I think you handled it well. I'm as shocked as you are that two people told you this so recently. Very odd indeed. There must be some crazy quality about you that gets people to open up to you.... huh, imagine that. Swinging still happens? I thought that was a thing of the 70s. I think you handled it well. I’m as shocked as you are that two people told you this so recently. Very odd indeed. There must be some crazy quality about you that gets people to open up to you…. huh, imagine that.

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